Thursday, February 23, 2012
Panduan Mandi Wajib Dengan Betul.
Monday, February 13, 2012
6 Cara Mudah Membuat Anak Merasa Disayangi
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Walnut Cinamon Roll
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Cara Rasulullah SAW Menjaga Kesihatan Diri.
Monday, January 30, 2012
Can you raise smarter kids?
Should you feed your child more fish? How about supplements like vitamins and minerals? Should you send your child for holiday courses and seminars? Surely, training both the right and left brain will help?
These are just some of the common methods that parents use in the hope of making their child “smarter.”
Is it possible though, or is it just a myth? Can you actually make your child smarter?
Consultant paediatrician Dr Azam Mohd Nor gives parents hope. While there are certain things that will help, he admits there is no clear recipe for making a child smarter.
Dr Azam explains that it starts from the womb and good nutrition. The mother should eat nutritious food and take folic acid pills when pregnant, especially in the first trimester.
“The growth rate of the development of the brain happens very much within the first trimester and this is where the development is very important. And that's why it is important for the mother to take proper nutrition from the word 'go.'
“There are some studies showing that women who are at the age where they might conceive should already take folic acid because a deficiency in folic acid can cause a neural tube defect in the baby – which is a defect of the brain.
“This is a very direct association that is proven and therefore it is an important factor in the development of the child,” explains Dr Azam.
Mother's milk
According to him, it is a fact that children who are on breast milk tend to have a higher IQ compared with children on infant formula.
“Studies have shown that the IQ is eight points higher compared with the child who is on infant formula. The reason is that the content of the nutrients in breast milk is far more superior compared with the content of nutrients in infant formula,” he says.
Dr Azam adds that breastfeeding offers the most important nutrients for the child. However, that is not to say that a child who is breastfed for two years will be smarter than one who was breastfed for nine months.
This is because after the first six months, breast milk is no longer the child's only form of nutrition. It is a good supplement but the child would also be on some solid foods by then.
“A lot of times, parents fail to give the right kinds of food to the child and this might cause problems,” says Dr Azam.
DHA
He informs that DHA (Docosahexaenoic acid), one of the Omega-3 fatty acids found in fish, is important for brain development. However, not enough is known about exactly how much DHA is required.
“Breast milk is a gold standard; it provides the baby with DHA. In some of the infant formulas, there is DHA. But, how good is this DHA? Nobody knows whether this is going to be able to function as well as the DHA in the breast milk. Nobody can tell. But there are some studies to show that it helps,” he adds.
Hence, fish as brain food is not a myth, says Dr Azam, as fish like tuna and cod contain DHA.
However, with all the current fears of mercury toxicity, some groups are reluctant to eat fish. Dr Azam explains that not all fish are affected and if parents are worried, then they should go for the small fish such as cod.
“Fish contain a lot of good fats – we're talking about the Omega-3 fats. The Omega-3 fats is the one that is in the brain and helps brain development. So, therefore the people who eat this fish tend to have better brain function,” he says.
According to Dr Azam, researchers have found that the Eskimos don't have a high incidence of Alzheimer's disease because of their diet, which obviously is mostly fish.
“These are important. One should never undermine good nutrition,” says Dr Azam.
Right and left brain
As for using both the right and left brain, Dr Azam explains that there are studies to show that the right brain is more involved in creative thinking and the left brain is more involved in logic thinking.
“The brain is like an organ or a muscle. It can be trained to be used in a certain fashion. If you are always training your brain in a logical manner, then you tend to use your left brain more. But, if you are a bit more on the creative side, then your right brain is more dominant. But, this is all training and there are also ways or mechanisms to make sure that both sides are being trained. This is where you have all these developmental programmes where they train the right and left brain brain. I don't think it is actually a myth. I think it is a way to help to create the child's thinking,” says Dr Azam.
However, he warns against being too rigid when trying to be creative. For example, if a child is allowed to paint freely – he is using his right brain. However, when the child is sent for art classes and taught the “right” way to paint … then that would be using the left brain more!
The same goes for those rigid and highly-repetitive piano lessons. While you think you're sending your child for a creative class, your child would be using more of the left brain than his right!
TV and videogames
Dr Azam doesn't believe in over-stimulating young children with TV exposure. According to him, in France, baby television and educational television have been banned because it is believed that children who watch too much television tend to have communication problems and it reduces their intelligence potential.
“In my opinion, they shouldn't watch TV under the age of two. It's not good for them. I may not have the studies to show it, but I think that's one of the main reasons why more children today are a bit slow with their speech development. I feel that a lot of children now have issues with what we call mild autism.
“What happens is the parents are working and the maid is looking after two or three other children. So, they switch on the television and the child watches from morning till night. Even their meals are taken in front of the TV. At the end of the day, there's a bit of interaction with the parents. What kind of social development can there be? Again, the child learns from what he or she sees and so they mimic what they see on television.
“What is more interesting now is that you will notice there are a lot of younger children who speak with an American accent. It is because this what they hear and see,” says Dr Azam.
He explains that the TV only gives one aspect of stimulation; there is no touch and no interaction.
This can result in the child not developing as well socially and being a bit slow in communicating. Parents' desire for an instant diagnosis and solution can lead to the child being misdiagnosed and even labelled wrongly. The labels include “autistic,” “dyslexic,” and even “ADHD child.”
“This is what I feel sad about – society is in too big a hurry to label a child. It's like we can't wait and give the child a chance to develop.
“I think this is something that a lot of parents should learn – not to be so quick to label their kids as dyslexic or autistic or having ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). I've seen parents coming in with their two or three year old claiming their child has ADHD. It's too soon and it's very frightening the way things are going,” he adds.
He warns against over-exposure to videogames, as well. With so much movement, colour and excitement, videogames are so exciting to the child that school in comparison becomes boring. This, he says, creates inattention in the child.
Dr Azam recommends parents cut down on their children's videogaming and television time and spend more time with nature, instead.
“Chances are they will be more attentive in school,” he says.
Giving kids time to develop
Patience is a virtue that parents need to have. Sometimes they're in such a hurry for their child to learn and grow smarter that they don't give the child time to develop.
Dr Azam gives the example of a child at birth and one at 12 months old – the difference is tremendous. A newborn sleeps and drinks milk. A 12-month-old can interact and start communicating. Similarly, children born in January and December of the same year are going to be at different stages of development.
“What happens to the children who are born in December when they are put in the same class as those who are born in January? Even though you may think there is no difference at all, obviously there is some difference in the maturity of the child.
“So, there might be issues with that which are not being looked into. Maybe, children born early in the year tend to be able to understand things better, concentrate better and achieve things better.
“Whereas those who are born in December may be more slacking in a lot of things that they do. That's why there are some studies to show that children who are born in the first six months, from January to June, tend to do better in class compared to those born at the tail-end of the year,” says Dr Azam.
He also emphasises that all children learn differently.
“This is something parents must understand and look into. Some people are more into words; some are into numbers; some learn through pictures; and some through reading.
“So, parents need to evaluate how the child functions, what makes them tick, and use that to increase their potential.
“And, that is where a lot of education systems fail because this doesn't happen,” says Dr Azam.
He emphasises the need to nurture the child's curiosity and sense of exploration from a young age.
“That's important. A child's brain is like a sponge – it absorbs everything. So, it is important for you to nurture that curiosity. They also have an ability to imprint information – they look at things and they learn from it. In fact, they learn a lot from just observing their parents and family members.
“That is the reason why parents need to be good role models. You must be good role models because the child will learn from you. Whatever you are doing, they will do the exact thing.
“You may tell a child not to smoke. But if the father and mother are puffing away, the child will learn that smoking is not bad.
“This is a very strong mechanism of learning. They tend to learn by what's going on around them.
“Yes, you need to expose them to their surroundings and show them things but you also need to be very careful about what kind of exposure you give to your child,” he warns.
Conclusion
Everything interplays but nobody can give you an exact figure of how much comes from genes, nutrition, stimulation and the environment.
What can one do then?
“Optimise everything. Make sure everything is being looked into and optimised to make sure that the child achieves his fullest potential.
“At the end of the day, it's about just doing enough, and not doing things excessively. It's all about the yin and yang – having a balance. Having DHA is good but if I feed my child a lot of DHA, it might be detrimental. Taking Vitamin C is okay but if I give 20 tablets of Vitamin C to my child it's not good because it can cause problems. So, it's all about the balance.
“The question is: What is the balance? Nobody can give you a direct number to it. This is something that we are still trying to find out.
“The only recipe I would give for making your kids smarter is to eat healthy food, make sure that you give the good fat rather than the bad fat. What foods have the good fats? Those with Omega-3, not the polyunsaturated ones.
“Make sure they get enough vitamins, minerals and trace elements. Make sure that they get enough iron in their food because iron is important for the development of the brain.
“Avoid things that are not natural like processed foods and colourings in your foods. Then there is also the environmental issues and getting proper stimulation, and exposing the child to the right things.
“This is the best advice that one can actually give to making kids smarter,” he concludes.
Sumber : http://parenthots.com
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Highlight:
1. Berikan anak-anak kita makanan yg sihat, dari dlm kandungan lagi..avoid, maggie, jajan, gula2, makanan yg telah diproses dll yg kita sendiri tahu kurang sihat..sekali sekala takpe kot..uhuk!
2. Elak2 kan TV, komputer, ipad, phone (dan sengankatan dgnnya) yg mengundang keasyikkan kanak2 ini. Ye, Sarah, Haziq, Hafiy , NO TV! NO COMPUTER! on school day. Go for natural, main tanah, main air, kenkadang main air hujan pun ibu kasi...alhamdulillah, tak demam pulak. Berkat susu ibu kot ekekekek....So far so good..
3. Giving kids time to develop, ye beri masa...
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Sejernih Sinar Matamu.
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
10 Surah dapat Menghalang daripada 10 ujian Besar Allah
1- Surah Al-Fatihah dapat memadam kemurkaan Allah SWT.
2- Surah Yasin dapat menghilangkan rasa dahaga atau kehausan pada hari Kiamat.
3- Surah Dukhan dapat membantu kita ketika menghadapi ujian Allah SWT pada hari kiamat.
4- Surah Al-Waqiah dapat melindungi kita daripada ditimpa kesusahan atau fakir.
5- Surah Al-Mulk dapat meringankan azab di dalam kubur.
6- Surah Al-Kauthar dapat merelaikan segala perbalahan.
7- Surah Al-Kafirun dapat menghalang kita daripada menjadi kafir ketika menghadapi kematian.
8- Surah Al-Ikhlas dapat melindungi kita daripada menjadi golongan munafiq.
9- Surah Al-Falq dapat menghapuskan perasaan hasad dengki.
10- Surah An-Nas dapat melindungi kita daripada ditimpa penyakit was-was.
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
3 Doa untuk anak supaya menjadi soleh dan solehah
Monday, August 1, 2011
Salam Ramadhan
Yaa Allah! Jadikanlah Puasa Ku Sebagai Puasa Orang-Orang Yang Benar- Benar Berpuasa. Dan Ibadah Malam Ku Sebagai Ibadah Orang-Orang Yang Benar-Benar Melakukan Ibadah Malam. Dan Jagalah Aku Dan Tidurnya Orang-Orang Yang Lalai. Hapuskanlah Dosa Ku ... Wahai Tuhan Sekalian Alam!! Dan Ampunilah Aku, Wahai Pengampun Para Pembuat Dosa.
Doa Hari 2
Yaa Allah! Dekatkanlah Aku Kepada Keridhoan-Mu Dan Jauhkanlah Aku Dan Kemurkaan Serta Balasan-Mu. Berilah Aku Kemampuan Untuk Membaca Ayat-Ayat-Mu Dengan Rahmat-Mu, Wahai Maha Pengasih Dad Semua Pengasih!!
Doa Hari 3
Yaa Allah! Berikanlah Aku Rezki Akal Dan Kewaspadaan Dan Jauhkanlah Aku Dari Kebodohan Dan Kesesatan. Sediakanlah Bagian Untuk Ku Dari Segala Kebaikan Yang Kau Turunkan, Demi Kemurahan-Mu, Wahai Dzat Yang Maha Dermawan Dari Semua Dermawan!
Doa Hari 4
Yaa Allah! Berikanlah Kekuatan Kepada Ku, Untuk Menegakkan Perintah- Perintah-Mu, Dan Berilah Aku Manisnya Berdzikir Mengingat-Mu. Berilah Aku Kekuatan Untuk Menunaikan Syukur Kepada-Mu, Dengan Kemuliaan-Mu. Dan Jagalah Aku Dengan Penjagaan-Mu Dan Perlindungan- Mu, Wahai Dzat Yang Maha Melihat.
Doa Hari 5
Yaa Allah! Jadikanlah Aku Diantara Orang-Orang Yang Memohon Ampunan, Dan Jadikanlah Aku Sebagai Hamba-Mu Yang Sholeh Dan Setia Serta Jadikanlah Aku Diantara Auliya'-Mu Yang Dekat Disisi-Mu, Dengan Kelembutan-Mu, Wahai Dzat Yang Maha Pengasih Di Antara Semua Pengasih.
Doa Hari 6
Yaa Allah! Janganlah Engkau Hinakan Aku Karena Perbuatan Maksiat Terhadap-Mu, Dan Janganlah Engkau Pukul Aku Dengan Cambuk Balasan- Mu. Jauhkanlah Aku Dari Hal-Hal Yang Dapat Menyebabkan Kemurkaan-Mu, Dengan Anugerah Dan Bantuan-Mu, Wahai Puncak Keinginan Orang-Orang Yang Berkeinginan!
Doa Hari 7
Yaa Allah! Bantulah Aku Untuk Melaksanakan Puasanya, Dan Ibadah Malamnya. Jauhkanlah Aku Dari Kelalaian Dan Dosa-Dosa Nya. Dan Berikanlah Aku Dzikir Berupa Dzikir Mengingat-Mu Secara Berkesinambungan, Dengan Taufiq- Mu, Wahai Pemberi Petunjuk Orang- Orang Yang Sesat.
Doa Hari 8
Yaa Allah! Berilah Aku Rezki Berupa Kasih Sayang Terhadap Anak-Anak Yatim Dan Pemberian Makan, Serta Penyebaran Salam, Dan Pergaulan Dengan Orang-Orang Mulia, Dengan Kemuliaan-Mu, Wahai Tempat Berlindung Bagi Orang-Orang Yang Berharap
Doa Hari 9
Yaa Allah! Sediakanlah Untuk Ku Sebagian Dari Rahmat-Mu Yang Luas, Dan Berikanlah Aku Petunjuk Kepada Ajaran-Ajaran-Mu Yang Terang, Dan Bimbinglah Aku Menuju Kepada Kerelaan-Mu Yang Penuh Dengan Kecintaan- Mu, Wahai Harapan Orang-Orang Yang Rindu.
Doa Hari 10
Yaa Allah! Jadikanlah Aku Diantara Orang-Orang Yang Bertawakkal Kepada-Mu, Dan Jadikanlah Aku Diantara Orang- Orang Yang Menang Disisi-Mu, Dan Jadikanlah Aku Diantara Orang-Orang Yang Dekat Kepada- Mu Dengan Ihsan-Mu, Wahai Tujuan Orang-Orang Yang Memohon.
Doa Hari 11
Yaa Allah! Tanamkanlah Dalam Diriku Kecintaan Kepada Perbuatan Baik, Dan Tanamkanlah Dalam Diriku Kebencian Terhadap Kemaksiatan Dan Kefasikan. Jauhkanlah Dariku Kemurkaan-Mu Dan Api Neraka Dengan Pertolongan-Mu, Wahai Penolong Orang-Orang Yang Meminta Pertolongan.
Doa Hari 12
Yaa Allah! Hiasilah Diriku Dengan Penutup Dan Kesucian. Tutupilah Diriku Dengan Pakaian Qana'ah Dan Kerelaan. Tempatkanlah Aku Di Atas Jalan Keadilan Dan Sikap Tulus. Amankanlah Diriku Dari Setiap Yang Aku Takuti Dengan Penjagaan-Mu, Wahai Penjaga Orang-Orang Yang Takut.
Doa Hari 13
Yaa Allah! Sucikanlah Diriku Dari Kekotoran Dan Kejelekan. Berilah Kesabaran Padaku Untuk Menerima Segala Ketentuan. Dan Berilah Kemampuan Kepadaku Untuk Bertaqwa, Dan Bergaul Dengan Orang-Orang Yang Baik Dengan Bantuan-Mu, Wahai Dambaan Orang-Orang Miskin.
Doa Hari 14
Yaa Allah! Janganlah. Engkau Hukum Aku, Karena Kekeliruan Yang Ku lakukan. Dan Ampunilah Aku Dari Kesalahan-Kesalahan Dan Kebodohan. Janganlah Engkau Jadikan Diriku Sebagai Sasaran Bala' Dan Malapetaka Dengan Kemuliaan-Mu, Wahai Kemuliaan Kaum Muslimin.
Doa Hari 15
Yaa Allah! Berilah Aku Rezki Berupa Ketaatan Orang-Orang Yang Khusyu'. Dan Lapangkanlah Dadaku Dengan Taubatnya Orang-Orang Yang Menyesal, Dengan Keamanan-Mu, Wahai Keamanan Untuk Orang-Orang Yang Takut.
Doa Hari 16
Yaa Allah! Berilah Aku Kemampuan Untuk Hidup Sebagaimana Kehidupan Orang-Orang Yang Baik. Dan Jauhkanlah Aku Dari Kehidupan Bersama Orang-Orang Yang Jahat. Dan Naungilah Aku Dengan Rahmat-Mu Hingga Sampai Kepada Alam Akhirat. Demi Ketuhanan-Mu Wahai Tuhan Seru Sekalian Alam.
Doa Hari 17
Yaa Allah! Tunjukkanlah Aku Kepada Amal Kebajikan Dan Penuhilah Hajat Serta Cita-Cita Ku. Wahai Yang Maha Mengetahui Keperluan, Tanpa Pengungkapan Permohonan. Wahai Yang Maha Mengetahui Segala Yang Ada Didalam Hati Seluruh Isi Alam. Sholawat Atas Mohammad Dan Keluarganya Yang Suci.
Doa Hari 18
Yaa Allah! Sedarkanlah Aku Akan Berkah-Berkah Yang Terdapat Di Saat Saharnya. Dan Sinarilah Hatiku Dengan Terang Cahayanya Dan Bimbinglah Aku Dan Seluruh Anggota Tubuhku Untuk Dapat Mengikuti Ajaran-Ajarannya, Demi Cahaya-Mu Wahai Penerang Hati Para Arifin.
Doa Hari 19
Yaa Allah! Penuhilah Bagianku Dengan Berkah-Berkahnya, Dan Mudahkanlah Jalanku Menuju Kebaikan-Kebaikannya. Janganlah Kau Jauhkan Aku Dari Ketertedmaan Kebaikan- Kebaikannya, Wahai Pembed Petunjuk Kepada Kebenaran Yang Terang.
Doa Hari 20
Yaa Allah! Bukakanlah Bagiku Pintu-Pintu Sorga Dan Tutupkanlah Bagiku Pintu-Pintu Neraka, Dan Berikanlah Kemampuan Padaku Untuk Membaca Ai-Quran Wahai Penurun Ketenangan Di Dalam Hati Orang-Orang Mu'min.
Doa Hari 21
Yaa Allah! Berilah Aku Petunjuk Menuju Kepada Keridhoan- Mu. Dan Janganlah Engkau Bed Jalan Kepada Setan Untuk Menguasaiku. Jadikanlah Sorga Bagiku Sebagai Tempat Tinggal Dan Peristirahatan, Wahai Pemenuh Keperluan Orang- Orang Yang Meminta.
Doa Hari 22
Yaa Allah! Bukakanlah Bagiku Pintu-Pintu Karunia-Mu, Turunkan Untuk ku Berkah-Berkah Mu. Berilah Kemampuan Untuk ku Kepada Penyebab- Penyebab Keridhoan-Mu, Dan Tempatkanlah Aku Di Dalam Sorga-Mu Yang Luas, Wahai Penjawab Doa Orang-Orang Yang Dalam Kesempitan.
Doa Hari 23
Yaa Allah! Sucikanlah Aku Dari Dosa-Dosa, Dan Bersihkanlah Diriku Dari Segala Aib. Tanamkanlah Ketaqwaan Di Dalam Hatiku, Wahai Penghapus Kesalahan Orang-Orang Yang Berdosa.
Doa Hari 24
Yaa Allah! Aku Memohon Kepada-Mu Hal-Hal Yang Mendatangkan Keridhoan- Mu, Dan Aku Berlindung Dengan- Mu Dan Hal-Hal Yang Mendatangkan Kemarahan-Mu, Dan Aku Memohon Kepada-Mu Kemampuan Untuk Mentaati-Mu Serta Menghindari Kemaksiatan Terhadap-Mu, Wahai Pemberi Para Peminta.
Doa Hari 25
Yaa Allah! Jadikanlah Aku Orang-.Orang Yang Menyintai Auliya-Mu Dan Memusuhi Musuh-Musuh Mu. Jadikanlah Aku Pengikut Sunnah-Sunnah Penutup Nabi-Mu, Wahai Penjaga Hati Para Nabi.
Doa Hari 26
Yaa Allah! Jadikanlah Usaha ku Sebagai Usaha Yang Di syukuri, Dan Dosa-Dosa ku Di ampuni, Amal Perbuatan Ku Diterima, Dan Seluruh Aib ku Di tutupi, Wahai Maha Pendengar Dan Semua Yang Mendengar.
Doa Hari 27
Yaa Allah! Rizkikanlah Kepadaku Keutamaan Lailatul Qadr, Dan Ubahlah Perkara-Perkara ku Yang Sulit Menjadi Mudah. Terimalah Permintaan Maafku, Dan Hapuskanlah Dosa Dan Keslahanku, Wahai Yang Maha Penyayang Terhadap Hamba- HambaNya Yang Sholeh.
Doa Hari 28
Yaa Allah! Penuhkanlah Hidupku Dengan Amalan-Amalan Sunnah, Dan Muliakanlah Aku Dengan Terkabulnya Semua Permintaan. Dekatkanlah Perantaraanku Kepada-Mu Diantara Semua Perantara, Wahai Yang Tidak Tersibukkan Oleh Permintaan Orang-Orang Yang Meminta.
Doa Hari 29
Yaa Allah! Liputilah Aku Dengan Rahmat Dan Berikanlah Kepadaku Taufiq Dan Penjagaan. Sucikanlah Hatiku Dan Noda-Noda Fitnah Wahai Pengasih Terhadap Hamba- HambaNya Yang Mu'min.
Doa Hari 30
Yaa Allah! Jadikanlah Puasa ku Disertai Dengan Syukur Dan Penerima Di Atas Jalan Keridhoan-Mu Dan Keridhoan Rasul. Cabang-Cabangnya Kokoh Dan Kuat Berkat Pokok-Pokoknya, Demi Kenabian Mohammad Dan Keluarganya Yang Suci, Dan Segala Puji Bagi Allah Tuhan Sekalian
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Bila Kunci Rumah Baru Sudah Dapat...
**Kredit kepada tuan punye gambar...wink..wink..wink..**
Oh, masih dalam sesi menjamu-jamu mata.. mencari-cari design yang simple but nice.. Cari kedai pun belum. Hopefully by Khamis ni dah boleh panggil kontraktor mai ukur.
Dah lama kami menanti nak duduk rumah sendiri....Harapnya dapat la kunci dalam minggu ni. AMIN.
Thursday, March 3, 2011
New signature..
Petua Agar Anak Ikut Cakap Ibubapa
Sumber di perolehi dari Facebook Pak Ngah- Farit Ismeth Emir
1.Setiap pagi, sebelum pergi sekolah, anda berdiri di belakang anak dan kedua-duanya (anak dan ibu atau bapa) menghadap kiblat.
2.Letakkan kedua-dua telapak tangan ibu/ayah yang dirapatkan atas kepala anak tanpa sentuh kepala lebih kurang 1 inci dari rambut.
3. Bacakan al Fatihah dan Alam-nash-rah... hingga habis.
4. Niat dalam hati mohon pada Allah: "Ya Allah permudahkanlah anak aku ini untuk belajar dan diterangkan hati, lembutkan hati dan ditetapkan iman dan mohon anak aku ini mendengar cakap ibu bapanya".
5. Kucup dahi anak dan biarkan dia pergi ke sekolah. Telapak tangan anda (ibu/bapa) ada aura dan gunakannya sebaik-baiknya.
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Stay at Home Mom
TIDAK KELUAR BEKERJA tidak bermakna IBU ini hanya mengoyangkan kakinya sahaja di rumah. Dan tidak juga bermakna duduk di rumah bebanan kerja KURANG. Hakikatnya pergi bekerja atau tidak, kerja tetap ada. Jadi tidak adil bagi pemegang title SURIRUMAH dilabelkan sebagai golongan-golongan yang kurang aktif dan tidak menyumbang.
Renung-renungkan..
TELL ME ABOUT IT ®
By Carolyn Hax
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
Carolyn:
Best friend has child. Her: exhausted, busy, no time for self, no time for me, etc. Me (no kids): Wow. Sorry. What'd you do today? Her: Park, play group . . .
Okay. I've done Internet searches, I've talked to parents. I don't get it. What do stay-at-home moms do all day? Please no lists of library, grocery store, dry cleaners . . . I do all those things, too, and I don't do them EVERY DAY. I guess what I'm asking is: What is a typical day and why don't moms have time for a call or e-mail? I work and am away from home nine hours a day (plus a few late work events) and I manage to get it all done. I'm feeling like the kid is an excuse to relax and enjoy -- not a bad thing at all -- but if so, why won't my friend tell me the truth? Is this a peeing contest ("My life is so much harder than yours")? What's the deal? I've got friends with and without kids and all us child-free folks get the same story and have the same questions.
Tacoma, Wash.
Relax and enjoy. You're funny.
Or you're lying about having friends with kids.
Or you're taking them at their word that they actually have kids, because you haven't personally been in the same room with them.
Internet searches?
I keep wavering between giving you a straight answer and giving my forehead some keyboard. To claim you want to understand, while in the same breath implying that the only logical conclusions are that your mom-friends are either lying or competing with you, is disingenuous indeed.
So, since it's validation you seem to want, the real answer is what you get. In list form. When you have young kids, your typical day is: constant attention, from getting them out of bed, fed, clean, dressed; to keeping them out of harm's way; to answering their coos, cries, questions; to having two arms and carrying one kid, one set of car keys, and supplies for even the quickest trips, including the latest-to-be-declared-essential piece of molded plastic gear; to keeping them from unshelving books at the library; to enforcing rest times; to staying one step ahead of them lest they get too hungry, tired or bored, any one of which produces the kind of checkout-line screaming that gets the checkout line shaking its head.
It's needing 45 minutes to do what takes others 15.
It's constant vigilance, constant touch, constant use of your voice, constant relegation of your needs to the second tier.
It's constant scrutiny and second-guessing from family and friends, well-meaning and otherwise. It's resisting constant temptation to seek short-term relief at everyone's long-term expense.
It's doing all this while concurrently teaching virtually everything -- language, manners, safety, resourcefulness, discipline, curiosity, creativity. Empathy. Everything.
It's also a choice, yes. And a joy. But if you spent all day, every day, with this brand of joy, and then, when you got your first 10 minutes to yourself, wanted to be alone with your thoughts instead of calling a good friend, a good friend wouldn't judge you, complain about you to mutual friends, or marvel how much more productively she uses her time. Either make a sincere effort to understand or keep your snit to yourself.
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Aktiviti Orang Pantai
Mmmm...Tapi kami kalau dah mula boring duk terperap aje kat rumah, biasanya ke pantai Paka lah kami beraktiviti. Tapi bukan untuk mandi-manda, tetapi jalan-jalan cari makan. Pantainya kurang sesuai *ombak besar dan tidak landai* bahaya bagi mereka2 yang tidak ada skill berenang.
Biasanya kami ke sini untuk menikmati minum petang sambil ditemani angin dan bunyi deruan ombak yang memecah pantai..wah!! Tempat sempoi je. Cam ala-ala pondok je gitu. Makan keropok, cucur udang ke, laksa penang, mee sup ke, mee goreng, pisang goreng.Macam-macam..Banyak deretan kedai kayu di sini.. Pilih sahaja la kedai yang mana satu. Kebanyakan menjual menu yg sama...Cuma kedai pilihan kami ni best sikit sebab dia ada laksa penang dan air laicikang kegemaranku....Nyamannn, nikmatttt....Sekali sekala datang kat sini memang mengasyikkan.. * boring juga hari2 masak kat rumah..hihihih*
Big boss sedang mengawasi Haziq yang tidak mampu menguasai diri untuk tidak mencecahkan kaki ke air...
Ini sahaja yang dibenarkan, nak mandi, ombak besar..
Tapi ok laaa...tak banyak duit habis..Kalau duduk bandar besar, boleh? Hihihih...
We love Paka! :)
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Moist Buttercake *simple*
3 sudu kecil baking powder
secubit garam
Campurkan tepung, baking powder & garam.
Pukul butter dan gula sampai kembang, dalam 5 minit.
Masukkan telur satu persatu.
Masukkan vanilla essence.Kemudian masukkan tepung tadi dengan susu, berselang-seli. Masukkan mayonis. Jangan terlebih pukul, gunakan mixer pada kadar yang paling slow.Masak lebih kurang 45 minit. 350 F. Setelah masak, biarkan dalam tin 10 minit, kemudian baru keluarkan.